I don't know if what I'm about to say is a "hateful" thing or not. I just want to express my thoughts and feelings about some of these "pro-ana" sites or girls. (OR boys, for that matter).

First of all, most of these girls who create sites or claim that "ana is their best friend", are not anorexic YET, they're just trying to be. The thing is, in my opinion, they never WILL be, although they might hurt their bodies in some way TRYING to starve them. What I think is, the most insecure girls that read these sites or listen to those "pro-ana" girls could suffer the consequences. They do, in fact, have tendencies to "get" eating disorders, and when they see that some people consider it "cool" and "fashionable" to be anorexic, they'll just be proud to be one or continue being one. (Did that make sense?)

What I'm saying is, most of the time you don't even notice it when you stop eating, it's sort of "subconcious". Those pro-ana girls are not hurting themselves (as they wish to do); they're hurting other people around them. Although, in some way, they DO want to help other girls to starve themselves, which is even more silly since (in my opinion), being anorexic is about being THE THINNEST, the only one, the perfect one. (So why help others?) These girls, will, eventaully, get over that "phase". But the "real" anorexic ones will probably never ever fully recover.

These pro-ana girls might have some problems (I'm not saying they don't), but they just want and WISH to be anorexic so they'll get the attention they need (and trust me, they do need it). The thing is eating disorders are much more complex. This culture does NOT understand eating disorders, so it glamorizes them. The problem is, people just don't understand anorexia as a disease, so it turns out that if you tell someone they're not anorexic, you're hurting their feelings. Which brings me to my other point.

If you think you have cancer, and then someone tells you "I'm sorry, but you're wrong, you don't have cancer, so get over it"...would you be happy?? I would! So why is it that a girl who (supposedly or not) is anorexic, which is a dangerous disease, when she's told "I'm sorry, but you're wrong, you don't have anorexia", her feelings are hurt? She should be happy! I've seen girls and women who are trying really hard to get over the disease and wish they didn't have it. Because they're dying. So why would anyone WISH to have it? Would anyone WISH to have cancer? To have AIDS? Cancer and AIDS also make you lose weight, you know?

So, wishing you were anorexic is like wishing you had Cancer: It kills you. Sometimes slow, sometimes fast. It makes you lose weight. It's a difficult thing to recover from. It weakens you. You get attention both ways! But just because our culture "sees" cancer as a bad disease, and anorexia as a "cool" way to be thin, some girls decide they want to be anorexic.

*sigh*

I'm sorry to say this, but wishing won't take you anywhere if you don't have the problem, if that makes any sense. You might try to starve, but if the disease is NOT in you, you'll never make it. (And you should be happy about that).

Because it's not about not eating. It's about other things; I guess it depends on the person.

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